Codependency
Codependency is when someone overly needs others to help them fulfill their emotional and psychological needs. Basically, when one is codependent, their addiction is other people. This can be an unhealthy coping mechanism. Why, you ask when needing others is important for our psychological being? We all need others, but when we have to have others in our lives to help us constantly fulfill our needs, that's when it is a problem. The key is to be interdependent with each other. We don't need to rely on others to fulfill our emotional needs. We have others to enjoy them emotionally and psychologically, not because we need it.
Codependency Origins
So, why do people become codependent? It can be for various reasons, but for the majority of codependent people, it's usually because they didn't have deep connections with others when they were young. For children, having strong and deep connections with others helps them feel secure and safe. When they grow, they take that security and safety with them. If they didn't have those connections, they may be more likely to be codependent. This is generalized however and some codependents did have safe and secure connections. It may also be personality. Whatever the reason, it's good to look into it and work on becoming more interdependent.
Want to work on becoming more interdependent? A great way is to discover who you are and your personality type. This book will help you do that!
